I have decided to start a few new musings titled, The Mummy Diaries, I hope you enjoy it and would love to hear your views, opinions and feedback! #GoWithTheFlow
In my birthing pregnancy class, which I attended back in May, the teacher started talking about emotions and birth and more about the emotions. Now, I’m not cynical and I agree the emotions and birth are super important but I would say there are 3 things that are going to happen when you have a baby.
- Your waters will break or they’ll make them break.
- You will have contractions, it will hurt like hell.
- Baby will come out- Ouila!
After my C-section which I found wonderful (pushing a near 10-pound baby out? Ouch, ouch and more ouch) a nurse came into my cubicle. She asked me ‘Did I need counselling because I felt guilty?’
Guilty for what? The Cesarean? Are you kidding me? I was literally jumping for joy! A quick fabulous procedure with zero pain? I couldn’t have wished for anything better! (For the record I did try the normal way for 12 hours but I wouldn’t dilate and so it was fine for me).
But anyway this is the sort of thing they talked about in birthing class. I think it’s important the baby comes out in a healthy way and no amount of planning will change that. I just went to the birthing classes for ‘a laugh.’ Literally, I did. The characters in them were super funny. There was nervous gardener. No holds barred outspoken Londoner. Careful couple who wrote down everything the teacher said. The list goes on!
One day I said ‘Isn’t it amazing how women have been doing this for centuries around the back of a hut, or in their bedroom, but now it seems every little detail is looked at?’ (Always my problem in school for saying what I thought but couldn’t resist). The midwife looked shocked. ‘But people used to die more back then!’
O.K that’s understandable but you can’t plan a birth when you really don’t know if it will go exactly to plan, so maybe a loose plan is better? And so she would ask every week, ‘what’s your birthing plan?’
‘For the baby to come out,’ was my naughty reply.
Which leads me onto my next bit. I must admit that when I brought Baby Felix home I googled all the bloody time. Why is his sleep like this? His feedings. How to do this and that. Then I realised, it’s all gone to shit and to just go with the flow.
Yes, most of the time he sleeps through the night like an angel. Then other times he wants to get up at 2am. But you go online and it’s a crazy mummy rollercoaster that you can’t get off.
Sleep training. Should you rock them? Put them in the cot awake. Don’t let them nap in the pram. Be strict but not too strict. Get them used to sleeping out and about. Sleeping should be dark but they should be able to sleep anywhere. Don’t feed them then let them sleep. If you need them to sleep, feed them. Etc! Etc!
I’ve realised instead of planning, go with the flow- every day is different. What will be will be. You are only doing your best! There are going to be the days you feel like crap and nothing goes to plan (I often find this is when the baby is having a bad day then everything else just goes wrong). Enjoy each part of the baby as they will constantly get new associations, developments and challenges. Yes, it’s good to read up and try things and books can be very interesting but it’s important to make it work around your life and schedule. All you can do is try and see what works for you. Also make sure you have a break every now and then, even if that feels like you have a million and one things to do, the cleaning can always wait until later. The End!